What is abuse

Child abuse is a term we might use to describe when someone harms you or another child. This can involve hurting you physically, sexually, emotionally, or neglecting you. This includes people actively doing something which causes you harm, but can also include when people don’t do things to keep you safe.

Abuse can be carried out by anyone, including: Parents and other people within your family; Friends and other young people; Professionals who should be helping; People in the community; People online.

Types of Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse is when a child or young person is forced or tricked into sexual activities. Children may not understand that what’s happening is abuse or that it’s wrong for the abuser to do this to them. Children may also be afraid to tell someone. Sexual abuse can involve direct contact such as: sexual touching (whether the child is clothed or not); using a body part or object to rape or penetrate a child; forcing a child to take part in any sexual activities; making a child undress or touch someone else. It can also involve non-contact activities such as: exposing or flashing; showing pornography; exposing a child to sexual acts; making them masturbate; forcing a child to make, view or share child abuse images or videos; making, viewing or distributing child abuse images or videos; forcing a child to take part in sexual activities or conversations online or through a smartphone.

Emotional Abuse is any type of abuse that involves the continual emotional mistreatment of a child. Sometimes people call it psychological abuse. It is often a part of other kinds of abuse, which means it can be difficult to spot the signs or tell the difference, though it can also happen on its own. It can involve deliberately trying to scare, humiliate, isolate or ignore a child; humiliating or constantly criticising a child; threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names; making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child; blaming and scapegoating; making a child perform degrading acts; not recognising a child’s own individuality or trying to control their lives; pushing a child too hard or not recognising their limitations; exposing a child to upsetting events or situations, like domestic abuse or drug taking; failing to promote a child’s social development; not allowing them to have friends; persistently ignoring them; being absent; manipulating a child; never saying anything kind, expressing positive feelings or congratulating a child on successes; never showing any emotions in interactions with a child, also known as emotional neglect.

Neglect is the continuous failure to meet a child’s basic needs. It is the most common form of child abuse. Children who suffer neglect can experience increased risk and danger, as well as it having a long term impact on their physical and mental health. Physical neglect might involve not meeting a child’s basic needs, such as food, clothing or shelter, or not supervising them appropriately or keeping them safe. Educational neglect describes when a parent doesn’t ensure their child is given an education. Emotional neglect is defined as when a child doesn’t get the nurture and stimulation they need. For example they are ignored, humiliated, intimidated or isolated. Medical neglect applies to situations when a child isn’t given proper health care, for example access to a dentist or doctor and refusing or ignoring medical recommendations.

Physical Abuse is when someone hurts or harms a child or young person on purpose. This can include: hitting with hands or objects; slapping and punching; kicking; shaking; throwing; poisoning; burning and scalding; biting and scratching; breaking bones; drowning.